Marriage, Sex, and the Church

by Tereciah on August 15, 2013


Gold Wedding Rings


Marriage, Sex, and the Church


Yes, I said it.  Marriage, Sex, and the Church

Do you consider it taboo for me to place the word sex in the same sentence as the word, church?  I don’t.

Most Christian women and men will listen and have their own opinion when there’s a discussion, but they won’t speak.  They’ll observe but not participate. Why?

Here’s my two cents:

  • Embarrassment
  • Don’t want others to think they have problems
  • Assumed they will be judged
  • Pride
  • Trust

Now here’s my other two cents. 

As Believers in the Body of Christ we should be encouraging, training and inspiring others who are also in Christ.  We are all humans and though we fall, there should be a sister or a brother with a hand open willing to pull you back up.

If women and men in the church would talk more openly about marriage, sex and relationships as a whole, I strongly believe we could discourage many of the divorces, abuse or communication issues that seem to plague the Body of Christ.

Just imagine:  I have experience and encouragement on one topic.  You have knowledge and understanding in another topic, and yet another person has faith and results on another.  Think about all the knowledge, wisdom and encouragement that could go forth and bless others when combined!

It’s a collaborative effort, an effort that won’t be effective unless its brought out of secret; no longer a taboo.

But what do we do?  We hold on to that wisdom, that knowledge, in fear that we will be judged and talked about. That we will be despised and seem weak.  You know the saying “they should know better…and they say they’re a Christian!”  Therefore those that are hurting, end up feeling alone, resentful and disillusioned about “the church”.

Just like the world, they too have problems such as these…

  • Pornography – and it’s not just men
  • Infidelity
  • No sex or little sex in marriage
  • Abuse
  • Anger, resentment, hurt
  • Financial issues
  • Children misbehaving
  • Etc, etc, etc.

The list can go on and on.

If you know your wisdom, knowledge and experience can help another individual become better or strengthen their marriage, sex life or relationship; ask God how you should share what you know with others.   Ask Him whose life needs this message and consider sharing.

Remember, what Romans 15:1 says, “We then that are strong ought to bear the infirmities of the weak, and not to please ourselves.”

Be Blessed!

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Robin September 16, 2013 at 11:08 pm

Great article!! Sex in marriage is a gift from God; therefore the church should be talking about it. I believe Christians want the information but are afraid to let people know they want the information because it is viewed as taboo.


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